Ladies, have you ever been told not to diddle your fiddle? Meanwhile, John Doe over there is encouraged to whack and tell. Moms are warned about the sticky socks on their son’s bedroom floors, but young lady masturbation is a subject not even acceptable behind closed doors. Why is there a stigma when girls want to pleasure themselves? Why should we have to wait for a little love below from someone else when we have the tools to please our own sexual desires? It’s different for all women; some of us need some candles and Beyoncé, turned on low, whispering sweet nothings into our ears. Others find it easier with a little Internet encouragement, or perhaps that Fifty Shades of Grey novel that you claim, “you’ve never read.”

So, here’s the golden challenge—talk about lady masturbation. Talk about how you like it, because let’s face it most of us do, and most of us who don’t, might have been too afraid to try it out because of the stigma. Take control of your own pleasure and hell, talk about it! Oftentimes men’s locker room talk is about how many times they masturbate in one day and let us not forget that single rooms are often joked to be “Beat Suites” amongst male peers. So females, let’s own our pleasure!

Let’s not be ashamed to claim that our hour midday for ‘alone time’ might not only be to watch a new episode of New Girl, to binge eat popcorn, or nap. If we start talking to each other about our own masturbation habits, we will all realize, that hey, we’re not alone in this…at all. Not to mention, the best way to learn about how to tickle your pickle for maximum satisfaction is from your fellow women. Most people have snugged into their sheets more than a few times and are starting to understand what feels good and what moves should be kept on the shelf.

DUBLove!